This story carries a heavy, yet simple message: teach your children to love the right way and to treat others the right way in the form of your own actions. So many times we hear people talking about how they want to raise their children, and their ideas just aren’t very strong. We live in a society that no longer allows physical harm, though I do agree with a good slap to the behind every now and again when the situation applies for it. You also can’t be overly tough on your kids because that’s looked down upon oftentimes now too. So, we need to evolve as a society and I think this dad did a great job at doing just that.
This father may be divorced and separated from his two son’s mother, but that doesn’t stop him from buying her gifts on mother’s day and her birthday. It doesn’t stop him from helping his boys make her breakfast on special occasions either. He’s not in a desperate plea to get back with their mother, rather showing them how to properly treat a woman. More importantly, how to treat their mother. He and his ex-wife have agreed to a principle between the two that basically says this: We will co-parent our boys together, equally. We will share the responsibility of raising them the right way and teaching them to love and respect the right way. Never show anything but respect for one another in front of the boys, no matter how much one disagrees with the other. See, just because these two parents split up, doesn’t mean the kids should be forced to choose between the two. They share the responsibility equally and together, even in hard times for the two adults personally.
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When Billy Flynn Gadbois’s ex-wife was about to celebrate a coming birthday, he did what most would not even imagine for a couple that is separated. Waking up early to buy a birthday card, flowers, and ingredients to make a special breakfast, Billy planned a surprise birthday with his kids for their mother. Billy shared his thoughts on the matter in a recent Facebook post.
Billy strongly believes that divorced parents should not let any negative feelings about one and other interfere with the kids and their happiness. For that reason, Billy and his ex-wife decided from the moment they separated that they would still be co-parenting when it came to raising the kids.
“We decided early on that we were going to put the effort into co-parenting,” he said. “We just think it’s really important to show each other respect and care in front of the kids. Kids want to take care of their parents, and they can’t do it alone. So if it’s Mother’s Day and the kid doesn’t have anything to give to his mom… that doesn’t feel so great,” Billy explained.
If Billy just ignored the important days in his ex-wives lives, his young children would be unable to celebrate it the way they may want to. Understanding that he is a required part of the equation for the kids to do everything kids tend to do.
“Per usual someone asked me why the hell I still do things for her all the time. This annoys me. So I’ma break it down for you all. I’m raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships,” Billy stated in his Facebook post.
The sentiments are shared by Billy’s ex-wife as well, and she always makes sure the two sons, who are only four and eight years old, can give their dad a present on fathers day and his birthday.
“I’m not saying everyone needs to help the kids make breakfast. But the message people are getting is that you can show each other respect and care in front of the kids, and help the kids care for that parent, regardless of how you feel about each other,” said Billy.
Billy has shown that even though divorce can bring the worst out of people at times, at the end of the day, personal problems should never get in the way of raising the kids.