Stephanie Land, 37, a writer from Missoula, Montana wrote in an article for “She Knows” a publication for single moms that she plans to buy vibrators for her daughters , so that they will know what mind blowing sex is like before they try it with a partner. She says that way, they will know what their partner’s performance isn’t up to snuff. It will also give them an alternative to agreeing to sex with a man. You have to wonder what it is she writes. I’m guessing “Dear Playboy” letters. Or Cosmopolitan, possibly.
She claims that when she was 17, she became addicted to sex because she didn’t know about masturbation and she wants her children to know the pleasure they can give themselves. She says that she hopes that by giving her children vibrators, when they do have sex it will be a mind-blowing experience. I think this could backfire on her. One day in the future, she could be watching her oldest daughter walk down the aisle with a Black and Decker Industrial 350. Wedding gifts would include a surge protector, heavy duty axle grease and a pack of Marlboro cigarettes.
By giving her daughters the knowledge of ‘self-pleasure’ she hopes that when her children do have sex it will be ‘mind-blowing’ and ‘amazing’.
‘I believe girls shouldn’t just learn about sex being enjoyable with partners; they should first learn how to pleasure themselves,’ she wrote.
‘In addition to getting a worn copy of Our Bodies, Our Selves, my girls will get vibrators.’
Suggesting reading material for children, she said her daughter should be ‘getting herself off’ while reading Forever, Judy Blume, The Basketball Diaries and learning about their clitoris from Getting Off: A Woman’s Guide to Masturbation.
She added: ‘Wouldn’t an eager boy’s erection be a little less tempting (if it’s tempting at all) when countered with knowledge of what good sex could really feel like?’
By experiencing orgasms alone first, she hopes it will make her daughters more assertive.
She said: ‘I hope that my daughter is able to say “no,” and that she says “yes” only when she’s ready. I hope she says “yes” breathlessly and loud and not in a silent absence in fear of saying “no.”
‘I want her to have mind-blowing, amazing sex, and she won’t know how unless she first knows how to have it with herself.’
The downside is if she enjoys the vibrator so much, all sex with a partner is a disappointment. Let’s face it, a vibrator can go forever, whereas a man will, excuse the pun, peter out.